Well yes, I'm writing this blog so it seems I do exist after all... but apparently a lot of people believe that people like me don't exist.
I received the link to this article a little while ago and meant to write about it myself ever since. (Much workout, much fatigue, much stuff going on.) Because this article is about me - not personally, but about people who are asexual just like I am.
When I read it I recognized much of myself in it, although this guy in the article realized amazingly quickly that "asexual" is the term for what he is. Myself I may have had lots of additional complications going on - being very introverted, even autistic-leaning, and suicidal for hating my then weak and useless body, etc.
But what once more shocked me about the article, even now, is the extent to which asexuality is still unknown, so much even that lots of people seem to have never heard of it or it never even occurred to them that it exists at all!
It really puzzles me how this can be so, since virtually everyone spends at least their first decade of life in this same state! In fact when asked about my sexuality, which happens sometimes since I'm obviously gender-nonconforming or at least extremely masculine (and probably most often deemed a lesbian), this is what I usually tell people when they can't make sense of "asexual": Just think back of your own sexuality when you were about 5 years old. You didn't have any sexual feelings then? See, and in me this just never changed. It's this simple really.
It's good to see that by now there's some information available, but you'd probably rarely come across it unless you search for it.
Definitions may vary slightly, and I personally strongly disagree with the statement, as given in this info sheet (PDF), that asexual people "may experience arousal and orgasm". In my opinion, if you have anything at all going on down there then you're by definition not asexual.
Even more recently I chanced upon this article explaining "graysexuality", a term I'd never heard before, and I think it's in fact a neat description for all those people who are, unlike myself, not 100% asexual.
Everything is not that simple, obviously, and I've been puzzled myself to read that there are asexual people who are interested in dating, and apparently even a number who are willing to compromise for a non-asexual partner... something which would be absolutely beyond unthinkable to myself, but then again, I'd never have any interest in dating in the first place. Frankly, I find humans to be physically quite repulsive animals.
I wouldn't want to live forever in such a body, and so I'm glad we don't...
I don't know if other asexuals also feel like this to some extent, but personally I've always felt somewhat indignant about having to eat, to sleep, and excrete wastes... getting hungry, getting tired so easily, being cold most of the time...
It's a bit of a comfort that there are other animals who all share the same predicaments, although in very much prettier bodies. The ones with pointy fins and pointy teeth...
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